The question comes up
often: What is sexy?
Traditionally, people
answer abs, boobs, muscles. But what else is? Think of your significant other,
or someone who know and find attractive. Yes, they might be physically
attractive, but what else? A smile? Maybe he tells funny jokes. Or she helps
the elderly.
Anything can be sexy. I’m
in the camp that believes the physical hooks you in, makes you pay attention,
but age takes that. Chris Hemsworth is a god now, but in forty years? I’m not
sure he’ll have the same body (although I’ll love to see what he does look
like). Things change. Those abs you love to run your hand down? What if they
put on weight? Those muscles? What if he quits exercising? That smile? What if
she loses a tooth or two?
While looking at what
someone is physically, nothing is sexier than how they intrigue you mentally.
Personalities change, yes, but senses of humor usually don’t. Good conversations
are more refreshing than eye candy. Relationships need to be built on what’s in
the heart simply because not everyone stays beautiful.
Personally, nothing is
sexier than a good laugh. If a man has jokes that make me laugh so hard that I
cry, he’s a keeper. Compassion is something else I love.
When I’m writing love
stories, I try to include plenty of bonding time. I always think “The sex is
great, but what do they do when she’s on her period? Or what if she’s not in
the mood? Do they even have casual conversations?” Lasting relationships are
grounded. Anyone who has ever been in a long-term relationship knows there’s
plenty of ups and downs, sometimes way more downs than ups. Perfect abs won’t
get you through that.
So what is sexy to you?
Or this?
Or Jason’s accent?
What do you find
unappealing?
What
kind of man or woman would you build if you could?
