Monday, June 29, 2015

Man Candy Monday

Welcome to Monday!

Know what that means? Yep, #mcm
Today’s hottie is Vash the Stampede from Trigun. Such a goofball but he knows how to fight.

Goofy. Lighthearted. Badass when it comes to his guns. He never misses and has pulled off some seriously difficult shots. When he puts on his sunglasses, damn, watch out. Shit is going down.

And yes, I have a pair of sunglasses like his.

What do you think about this week’s hottie?

Thursday, June 25, 2015

Erotica has changed... Or has it?

I recently saw a discussion about how erotica has changed over time. I will admit that I haven’t read any erotica from before my time (I was born in ’87). I have had the pleasure of reading some of those Hustler articles (was it Hustler? Playboy? Help me out here). Those were interesting. And basic porn.
A classic term is “Bodice ripper” which is kind of what it sounds like. The man just has his way with the woman. Back in the day people called this “dub-con” or dubious consent. Like I said, I haven’t actually read these books, but some have quoted them. There have been some really loose terms for dub-con. And some were just rape, but because the woman was married to the man is didn’t count.
It seems like the more mainstream fiction from back in the day had men taking control. Now, I realize there was probably plenty of Femdom too, but like I said, mainstream. 

I like that things are so much more balanced these days. Women have the power in fiction. Is it because women today are in much more power than 10 years ago, 20, 50? If rumors are correct, we’ll have a woman running for presidency in 2016. Has our society shaped fiction and allowed women stronger roles, or has women always had this power and there’s just much more fiction around now?
Do you like strong women who control the men, or do you prefer a woman who is more submissive. Note: submissive does not mean weak. Some submissives are stronger than their Doms.
Any books from decades ago that you’ve read and cringed about? Or maybe there was a golden piece of erotica that can stand the test of time?

Monday, June 22, 2015

Man Candy Monday

Welcome to Monday! 

Know what that means? Yep, #mcm

Today’s hottie is the Winter Soldier! He may be a bad guy, but damn, he looks so good.

I can't figure out when I swooned harder: when he caught Captain's shield, or when he flipped that knife in the fight with Captain. Nothing is hotter than that stare when he's fighting.

What do you think about this week’s hottie?

Thursday, June 18, 2015

Definition of sexy?

The question comes up often: What is sexy?
Traditionally, people answer abs, boobs, muscles. But what else is? Think of your significant other, or someone who know and find attractive. Yes, they might be physically attractive, but what else? A smile? Maybe he tells funny jokes. Or she helps the elderly.
Anything can be sexy. I’m in the camp that believes the physical hooks you in, makes you pay attention, but age takes that. Chris Hemsworth is a god now, but in forty years? I’m not sure he’ll have the same body (although I’ll love to see what he does look like). Things change. Those abs you love to run your hand down? What if they put on weight? Those muscles? What if he quits exercising? That smile? What if she loses a tooth or two?
While looking at what someone is physically, nothing is sexier than how they intrigue you mentally. Personalities change, yes, but senses of humor usually don’t. Good conversations are more refreshing than eye candy. Relationships need to be built on what’s in the heart simply because not everyone stays beautiful.
Personally, nothing is sexier than a good laugh. If a man has jokes that make me laugh so hard that I cry, he’s a keeper. Compassion is something else I love.
When I’m writing love stories, I try to include plenty of bonding time. I always think “The sex is great, but what do they do when she’s on her period? Or what if she’s not in the mood? Do they even have casual conversations?” Lasting relationships are grounded. Anyone who has ever been in a long-term relationship knows there’s plenty of ups and downs, sometimes way more downs than ups. Perfect abs won’t get you through that.
So what is sexy to you?

Or this?

Or Jason’s accent?

What do you find unappealing?
What kind of man or woman would you build if you could?

Monday, June 15, 2015

Man Candy Monday

Welcome to Monday! 

Know what that means? Yep, #mcm
Today’s hottie is Alexander Skarsgard. He can bite me anytime.

He has one of those smirks that just makes the panties take themselves off. Perfect tone of voice, smoldering eyes, one of the best faces. Yes, when he showed his lower gifts in True Blood, I may have paused the show once. Okay, five times. I needed a good look.

What do you think about this week’s hottie?